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i am 32 and suffer from anxiety and other problems due to being molested and raped at 6 and 7 for a year or more. one man molested me while at my cousin's house. he was 16-17. i was only 6-7. he knew superior and it has effected me in so many ways. the other guy would molest and rape. he was older. this has took a toll on my life as i got older. i want closure so i contacted the one that molested me at my cousin's. he is a dentist and beauty pageant consultant. i have to see him often bc he is my cousin. i havent heard back. i dont know exactly what i will tell him, i am confused. what should i do?
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Yes, I believe you did the right thing. OMG tho, he’s a beauty pageant consultant? That's scary. Confront him and tell him what his molesting has done to you & hold nothing back! He deserves each ounce of guilt, hurt, anger and shame you can give him!! Honey, keep speaking and LET IT OUT. Don't forget to forgive yourself either! You’ve done absolutely nothing wrong and are now doing everything right! I’m so proud of you! Keep it up. Also, I do agree with getting therapy, but I believe you need to confront your abuser as well!! That’s what I did with my father. He never would admit it to me, or anyone else for that matter, but it gave me the closure I so desperately needed!
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no you didn't you should've turned him in he ruined your life and i feel sorry for you that you didn't did you ever thing him and maybe if he did it to you he did it to other tiny girls too
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i am so sorry to hear that
i think that the best thing to do would be to speak to a therapist.
good luck to you.
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Have you gotten any professional counseling? I'm also an abuse survivor, and I have the ability to tell you from my experience even if you don't think it will help it does. You might need to shop around a bit to find the right counselor to help, but once you do it makes so much more difference. You might want to consider this instead of confronting your abusers head on — especially since you're still very vulnerable and they might use the power they still have over you to manipulate the situation and make things worse.
Please seek professional help. I promise it will be worthwhile.
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