Apr
Okay we been together for 3 years now and he has been wanting to do this i said we could but i just was afraid and it didn't happen tell last night i stated he could but he wasn't lubricated and when he did it, it injured and he knows it hurt but he finished and then he told me that he wasn't there to injured me and that are relationship shouldn't be built on that and he stated he wouldn't do it again but for me i know that it was what he wanted and it probably felt really good to him as it did for me but now what should i state ? i want him to feel good and sexually pleased . i didn't say anything to him just went to sleep but now what can i state to him to let him no that “yeah” it hurt but it doesn't mean that was the first and last time it could happen for him how or what can i say to him cause he probably is thinking that it won't happen for him again and i want to please him what should i tell him?
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I am not a guy first off, but I have been there as well.
1st my x husband forcced this act on me and it injured very badly when he did it. I vowed never to do it again..
My current husband (just remarried 3 weeks ago), he’s very different with it. He first did not force it on me, and he’s usually very careful about it. He has hurt me a coupel time sin the past, but like you it is one of those things wher eI grin and bear it. As far as things to tell him, tell him it was okay, and you wouldnt mind trying it again ,but a tiny differently next time.
I am going to give you a few pointers that’ll help it feel superior and not hurt as bad.
1. Make sure he helps you to rest, tapping on your annus wiht his finger, and fingering oyu at the same time will help you rest, make sure that you’re on your tummy. Also having him kiss along your back..
2. When he goes to enter, lube does help but also making sure that he doesnt force it in, your annus has to be very relaxed in order for it to go in and out with ease. Now this doesnt mean that it is any looser really it just means that it ensure that it doesnt hurt you. Also make sure that he has it on the opening and no ton the side of the opening.. This can cause extra pain as well.
3. Make sure that he knows to pay attention to your reactions especially on first penetration, after hte innitial it isnt as bad, that is unless he removes it all the way on the thrust…
4. AFter it is in, you’ve to keep yourself relaxed, let your mind go and wander on things. Dotn think abotu what is happening, the more relaxed you keep it the better it will be for you. Also if he does things like finger you a bit or even you can reach under your body and play with your clit then this tends to help… It helps ease you and relax you.. That’s the whole thing is staying relaxed.
AS A SIDE NOTE: It may take a little bit to get innitial penetration, as at times your body just will not accept it and he’ll have to pul back and try again… Make sure that you’re ready adn that you’re relaxed enough.. Soemtimes a tiny alcohol can help.. The important part is that you tell him what you are feeling and that you stay connected in that way. He needs to know what hurts and what doesnt. He needs to learn to work with your body and move withyour body. Once in a while you will even find that yes it is poossible to get off analy… I have doen it once, and only once out of ht emany times we have been together that way. Also I recomend not looking at his pee pee when you’re done or your bum…. It can get icky at times..
Another helpful hint if you choose to engage in this is make sure oyu have cranberry pills ready and that you go to the bathroom afterwards, because this act can cause a UTI. ALSO NEVER EVER EVER LET HIM SWITCH HOLES!!!!! THIS IS SURE TO CAUSE A VERY PAINFUL UTI!!!!
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Anal sex for a woman is a weird pain/pleasure thing. But if you were truly uncomfortable the entire time and not enjoying it at all, then you two weren't doing something right, I think. Do some reading about it before you try again.
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its called immorality and is an abomination in the eyes of God. hope you are prepared to take an account of your wrong doing. anal sex is obviously not natural. would you pick up shite with your bare hands in a pleasurable way?
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Dump him. Move on to someone who can do it right.
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next time you're in the mood for it YOU bring the lube tube!
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use lube.
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Jeez… how old are you -14? You don't sound mature enough to even be having sex. When adults engage in sexual activities, they are normally open and mature enough to say what they are feeling.
The fact that he didn't use lube and went ahead and did it proves that he didn't have a lot of concern for your comfort. I enjoy this activity, but not if someone is that selfish. I wouldn't do it again if that’s the ideal he’s able to do.