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i have to get tearing fixed.i wont go to one and i have to sooner or later and im terrified to death. i am b.c i was raped when i was tiny and i dont like ppl touching me now unless i truly trust them. im sketchy about going to a guy physician b.c how would he know he doesnt have the parts i have and a girl i feel lesbian. helppp
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Just think of the hundreds of people they examine. Trust me, they’ve seen it all!! They've seen fat people, old people, sick people, extremely beatiful people. You’ve nothing on your body that will shock, surprise or turn them on at all.
**Take your mother, sister or a friend and have them wait outside. I think having someone you know with you’ll help you get thru it easier.
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Well you might need to talk to someone about this, like a counselor. But remember that what they are doing isn’t at ALL sexual. So if it's a woman doctor, it doesn't mean you’re a lesbian because it has nothing to do with sex. If it's a man, it also has nothing to do with sex. And he doesn't have the parts, but he's studied them in years of training long enough to know more about them than anyone else who has them.
Ideal of luck. You can always ask that someone else come in the room with you during the exam as well, if that helps. They can distract you.Answer:
Go to a female, most are not lesbians, they got into it because they wanted to deliver babies not because they wanted to touch you. They usually have a nurse in the room to make sure nothing inappropriate happens. Tell the doctor you fears, they will understand and do the ideal to help. Just keep telling yourself the physician is there to heal you not hurt you. If you’re still having many fears because of what happened to you it would probably be a good idea to see a psychologist and try to work through some of that.
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I used to feel the same way….for similar reasons. Honestly, the only way to really get over that fear is to do it. The more you go, the less fear you’ll have. I prefer male physicians. And, he will definitely know what he's doing because that is his specialty. He deals with women and our “parts” all day, each day. But, to ease your mind a bit, ask some close friends who they go to.
When you go, let the doctor know that it is your first time and you are feeling a bit uncomfortable. Ask the physician to explain everything he/she is going to do so that you comprehend why they are touching you in certain places and what they’re looking for.
The good news is that’s doesn't take long. Close your eyes if it helps, and remind yourself that it is a necessary procedure that all women have to go through. You'll be fine.
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Make an appointment with a gyno, and then go in just prepared to speak.
If there’s someone you would feel comfortable being there to support you, take them with you.
Explain the problem to the Gyno, and then play it by ear. If they show themselves to be understanding and willing to take the time to develop a trusting relationship, then make another appointment.
If they make you feel uncomfortable or try to rush you, thank them and make an appointment to see another Dr.
Either way, keep in mind that to them, this is just a job. They don’t regard you as a sexual partner and treating one part of your body is much the same as treating any others.
Personally, I would advocate a female gyno, simply because they comprehend women's feelings superior and usually take time over details like warming hands and instruments first!
Good luck.
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dont worry think your physician as a friend or someone who is there to save your life. try and speak with your physician first and make him comprehend your fear and maybe he will be more understanding with you also take someone cloase along when you go to the physician.
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Just look at it as a part of your body that needs fixing, like removing tonsils if you’ve a sore throat. It's just another part of your body, not a sexual experience. How did you get tearing if you're so skittish?
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JUST **** HIM