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well i wasnt trying to but i found him mastrabating… on the personal! he’s only 12 but im not gonna punish him because it was akward for me and him. should i speak to him? im a girl but this is the second time and he didnt notice me the first time. i think he is mad at me. or maybe embarrassed? what should i do about this weird incident?
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You guys are siblings. Just go about it like nothing happened and eventually you’ll both forget it.
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If the personal is in his room, don't go in there without knocking or notice. If the computer is in a more “public” area of the home, … I'm not sure. If that's the case then he needs to learn to be more private with that behavior.
It's normal and natural for him to do this, and probably not appropriate for you to discuss it with him.
I would be a bit concerned about what sort of things he's getting into on the computer … and maybe some sort of parental controls on the personal would be appropriate.
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Purchase him some porn mags so he'll stop doing it at the computer(Or at least not as often). Just discreetly slide them under his bedroom door when you know he's in there so that you won't embarrass him to his face(he might still be a bit embarrassed though).
It's normal for him to be masturbating, why in the would you want to punish him or something? Some children discover this at even younger ages, even though they may not know what it means, just that it feels good.
Maybe inform your parents that it might be time for them to have a sex talk with him, going a tiny more into detail with these habits and where to preform them …maybe they can get him the mags. …or they might freak out, you never know with some parents.
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Masturbating is totally normal for a kid at his age. It is awkward that you found him like that, but nothing is wrong for him to be punished. I personally would just let it go or tell my father. It's gross that he's doing it at the computer, but he's also too young to purchase porno magazines. He's just probably experimenting with his man hood right now. He's a boy and boys will be boys. As for him being mad at you, he's probably just more humiliated. Its one thing to have your parents find you, but having a sibling whose a girl is mortifying because your more of his buddy then authority figure.
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There is something you need to realize. Although you may think he’s young, 12 years old is the average age most boys coming into puberty start masturbation. Now I’ll not deny that it is increadibly awkward walk in on someone while they are doing it or have them walk in on you whild you're doing it, but I don't think that punishing him or telling him it was wrong is a good way to go about resolving this issue. Although it might be embarassing for both of you he needs to comprehend that masturbation is a perfectly healthy and normal practice for adolecents and adults. What he also need to understand though is that there’s a proper time and place for doing this. Obviously doing this in the middle of the afternoon in front of the family computer isn’t the proper time or place. Tell him that he shouldn't be embarassed about what he did, but that he needs to realize that it's something to be done in private. You should anticipate that he might not say much, because I know that if my sister talked to me about masturbation I wouldn't state much either, but that doesn't mean he wont listen or comprehend. Hopefully by speaking about it you can avoid this situation again. Good luck.
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>What do i do i found my tiny brother…?
Uh, how about starting with leaving him alone about it.
>but im not gonna punish him because it was akward for me and him.
YOU're not going to punish him? Is he your brother or your son? Again, I say leave him alone.
>should i speak to him?
All you should possibly do is apologize for surprising him like that and maybe suggest he do that in his room or a water closet, or any room with locks on the door.
>or maybe embarrassed?
Yes, he is probably embarrassed.
>what should i do about this weird incident?
Nothing except maybe to tell him to do it in private.
Don't believe the doofus who stated “he might be looking at pron that has viruses”. There may arguably be issues relating to looking at pron, but getting viruses from it is not one of them.
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Don't speak to him about it. It will make him feel awkward.
Just let him keep doing it. It's a part of life and once you start, you are pretty much hooked. Let him enjoy his life and finding everything out.
It's not like he's going to halt now. He’s probably embarressed because it's kind of a privacy thing.
Just try and forget about it. He will probably get mad if you bring it up to him.
Just try and forget about it.
Don't even tell your parents. Because if they talk to him, he would die. my mother almost caught me doing it once and it was the scariest thing in my life.
Because like everyone, you don't know what everyone does behind shut doors and they want to keep it like that.
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You would punish him for doing something that is natural, and does no one any harm, trying to punish him or chastise him in any way will cause big problems sexually later on. Masturbation is no wrong, and you should not make him feel guilty for doing it, all men do it including your father. Just say hay bro, lock the door next time or if he is in a common area, tell him to get a room, he will figure it out.
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u should act like nothings happend and make sure you clean the personal room before you use it and probably the loo to and start knocking before you go into rooms. master bation is normal guys and girls of all ages do it. if it happens again say hey dude lock the door. but dont bring it out in public. its like if one of you parents or you brother walked in on you going pee youd be so embaressed but it happens and you learn to lock a door. and everyone has to pee. we just releave our selves in different ways. his body like yours is going threw a mosor change but the last hting he wants is for you to speak about it. or to give him the fact of life. and try not to mention it to to your parents thatll just make him feel worse. its not like he sitting theres doing it on the couche. if he starts to be inapropriet about it then state something. but it sounds like hes trying to hide it like most guys so chill. he just has to find his stroke so to talk. i know bad choice of words.
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To be honest, its not your place. Unless your his care taker then you should keep it to yourself. It was awkward and embarrassing…So why bring it up again? Guess what everyone has done it, and if not now will do it. So because he's 12 you feel you need to enforce some rules on how he shouldn't be touching HIMSELF? Does that make any sense to you? Are you gonna cut it off if you see him doing it again? Have you made him feel uncomfortable that your assuming he might be upset with you? I hope not. You should just leave him alone. And were you seriously contemplating punishing him?? How do you punish him for masturbating? When is he gonna be old enough to masturbate? His 16th birthday? Your gonna give him a gift and permission to jerk off???? Keep it all to yourself.
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Just let him alone man, why would you punish him for something normal?
60% of girls masturbate.
80% of guys masturbate.
Just let him masturbate, DO NOT do anything about it, he has sexual feelings now and he takes them out by masturbating.
I'm pretty sure even YOU tried or do masturbate.
But if you caught him watching porn, then tell him it is bad for him to watch it because it will make him messed up later in life, tell him that you're serious.
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Don't criticize him…he's at that age where he's ready to discover his body and need to release his sexual feelings and tension. Maybe gently speaking to him will help the situation. Just because he's younger doesn't mean he's not developing feelings for sex. Talk to him about his feelings and comfort him. Hope this helps.
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It would be extremely awkward for you to probably speak to him about it. Superior have another male speak to him about it. He's probably extremely embarrased and confused. Thats awfully young he probably seen it on tv, the web or something. Telling your parents is probaly the ideal thing to do.
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Talk to him, tell him that it's natural to masturbate, that there’s nothing to be ashamed about masturbation.
Suggest him to do it while on shower, or in places very, very private. Tell him something like: “First time was me catching you, then who?”
That's about it!
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first of all tell your parents. He could be looking at pron that has viruses in it. You could lose vital info just becaus you wanted to play the good guy. Second you HAVE to speak to him, don't avoid it. A 12 year old should not be doing that. A 12 year old probally hasen't even been in sex ed. You need to do something.
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Its perfectly natural. I started when i was around 13. All boys begin sometime, some earlier than others.
Masturbation is completly healthy, and unless you’ve religious beliefs that go against it, there is no reason to punish him, or make him stop.
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At 12, what he’s doing is very normal.
Where is the computer? If it is in a common family area, maybe you can gently talk with him and suggest a more appropriate private place.
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Boys masterbate. Dont say anything. Just act like you didnt see anything. How would you feel if you were caught in the act? If he comes to you about it thats different, but im sure the last thing he wants to do is speak about it atleast not now. Let it go.
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NEVER PUNISH FOR MASTURBATING. Masturbating is normal and should be awkward if he is caught. I would talk to him about it and life and explain that it is something that he needs to do in privacy in a locked room.
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If I were him I would want to just forget about it. Besides, I don't think it's apt to happen again since you scarred him for life. Since he is only 12 I think you should try to put some parental controls on the computer.
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Playing with yourself is natural … the hormones are acting up - especially just prior to the teenaged years. Leave it be … just as long as he wipes off any spray from the personal keyboard or the monitor afterwards …
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i think he is humiliated. its normal for a 12 year old to masturbate, its your choice to want to chat with him, if you find him being weird around you.
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1. That's normal, except for the catching him out.
2. You’ve no right to punish him, it's a natural thing, you'd be better off punishing him for breathing.
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it's healthy and normal. i think that bringing it up to him might humiliate him even more. just act as you usually do around him and give it some time. things should return back to normal.
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You shouldn't do anything, because it is totally normal. Different people start masturbating at different ages, and i think nearly 90% of boys masturbate by the time they’re 15.
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You should see about moving the personal into a part of the home that’s very public. I think your brother is way too young to be masturbating.
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if you don't state anything he'll keep doing it where you'll walk in on him. maybe tell him in general terms that he should be more private when he does stuff like that.
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Let him know that kind of thing is done in private so he needs to be careful with the privacy issue before his mother finds him in that situation.
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i would feel humiliated too! Just pretend it nevr happened,
i think its normal, i have guy friends just like tht. Dont worry
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Just let it pass by:he will forget and so should you:it is normal for his age:knock on the door from now on:saves a lot of humiliating moments.
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